Welcome to my first post of nonsense. Maybe to you, it sounds like nonsense, but removing most logical technicalities aside will allow it to make sense. The title or the content might not make sense, but then again, that's all up to you. I present to you today the notes I have kept with me from March 12, 2008. They're pretty detailed and confusing, so I'll rephrase it here to make it less confusing for the audience. If you have anything to say then please don't hesitate to leave a comment below.
Evolution allows certain species to survive, and others to die out. Well, if you're reading this, then obviously you're part of the surviving lineage, even though I don't know how long you can still live. However, have you ever wondered what part of our genetic stuff makes us more special than others? Well, if I have to put it into words, the surviving lineage is clearly the group that wanted to survive more than others.
Death is no big deal if you accept the fate of mortality. Do you know what it is? It's 100% my friend. The likelihood of dying had always been possible and unavoidable. So far I don't know anyone that can avoid death, yet, even if we're scientifically advanced, I doubt anyone can avoid death. Nor do we want to avoid death. Reason? It's because we're not afraid of death. We're afraid of torture. Mentioning death, people imagine all the scenarios of "ways that leads to death". That itself is not death. It's the process that leads to death. Get this straight- death is death. It's when the body function is gone and the soul is out. You can embellish it all you want. All the scary things that come with death is not death itself. What am I getting at here? Many people have not been given the appropriate guidance or breaks whether mentally and emotionally. When life hits you with unforeseen circumstances, many will orient their mindset towards the end of their life ---of suffering. This mindset takes form in depression and slowly but possibly can turn to something called "cancer".
Cancer is some serious business. I'm not mocking any part of it, but it's most often caused by the individual's will. You chose it, and you don't want to turn back. If you inherited it, then it was your ancestor's will. It was passed down and was never resolved. You the inheritor has the obligation to resolve it. It's literally a job of saving the world; your own world of your own universe of cells, united together to form your body. If you can't resolve it, then nobody can. Sure you can cut it out and/or use some harsh chemical treatment to "cure" it. Even if the surgery is successful, there's no guarantee that your descendants won't inherit the unresolved disorder.
Each of your cell devoted its whole life to serve you, hoping you'll guide it in the right direction. They willingly let themselves get destroyed, and recycled, then renewed again. If any of that sh** was done to us, destroyed and recycled, we would literally sh** our pants. Oh wait, we are like our cells. Think carefully about what I said. We are given birth, then we age and then.... we die. Yea that was it. It doesn't matter how others decide to dispose of our body, but we do contribute back to the environment we "leeched" from. We could become fertilizer for the soil again. Our bones will contribute calcium back to the ocean, or wherever it goes. Our flesh will contribute nitrogen back to the soil since the proteins that builds our muscles are compounds of amino acids made of nitrogen compounds. Then plants grow on it and other people eat it to survive.......OK, too much science for some of you, but you get the point. We are just like cells. We do get destroyed and recycled. We all prefer death. It's because it's a natural cycle we follow. Well, don't get me wrong, I don't mean you should kill yourself by any means. However, you unconsciously kill yourself........ in the form of cancer.
Cancer is basically cells disobeying the orders of the central will, in other words, us. We all have a soul, but if you decide to have everything self automate with negativity, then you'll cause cancer. An uncaring owner of a body doesn't deserve a body, because it's just simple karma. If you think back to our normal life and death cycle, the same thing happens. The planet we live on had caused many deaths of us with "natural disasters" such as earthquakes, volcanoes, hurricanes, tsunamis, and whatever you can name. Due to karma, we as living things have revenge back on this planet by causing wars, pollution, and many other internal conflicts. A body without a central will to guide all the cells will lead it to destruction because the cells' "will" is stronger than its owner. In the case of cancer, those cells don't think they have an owner.
What you have to do is realize the direction of your faith, or "comfort pocket", and guide it in the right path. We all eventually die, and we have faith in that. If that's your strongest faith, then good luck to your trip to the other world. If you still want to live, then you'll have to develop a faith stronger than your faith in death. That's the only way to combat cancer. A peaceful universe will follow a peaceful cycle, and a person, or any other living thing with faith in the right direction will have a body that won't refuse orders. It's all about guidance, and unity. Nothing more, nothing less. I wish you good luck my unfortunate reader.
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Monday, October 8, 2012
How to Control Your Temper - Selfish Motivation Vs Comfort Pocket
Do you feel that the world treats you unfairly? Is everyone around you irritating you? How do you handle it so that you don't drive everybody away? It's a matter of believing in nonsense, which is what I write.
Your temper didn't just appear in a moment's notice. It has actually been growing and developing for quite some time already. Controlling it properly will require a lot of understanding of yourself. To be able to do that, I will have to provide you some basic concepts of the source of your temper.
Your temper was created based on your need to fight. The reason you have that need is because our body has a mechanism described as "fight or flight" that helps us survive. If you have sufficient combat ability, then you fight. If you are afraid of suffering fatal damage, then you run away. In other words, your temper is your fight against your own fears. Fear might sound like a terrible emotion to have, but you have to learn to accept this natural part of yourself. Our fear is something heavens has bestowed upon us to protect us from danger, and to create new possibilities. Our intelligence is created entirely on the foundation of fear. For example, people are afraid of bacterial infection killing everone, so that fear stimulates them to create antibiotics. If there's no fear, then nothing will ever be created, and that includes innovative ideas. Accepting fear to learn and grow is one thing, but fighting it all the time isn't always the correct solution to your dilemma.
By society's standards today, we clearly don't have to fight or flight ALL the time. However, our minds and emotions are still inclined to follow our primordial ancestors' way of life. That's why in general we almost always resort to fight or flight emotional response when we face any kinds of stress. Our temper is specifically the fight response to our stress. Since we have already physically and mentally evolved very far beyond our ancestors, then it's time to catch up with our emotional control also. From the moment you read this, the goal you should have in mind is to make yourself advance beyond fight or flight mode. Fight or flight mode can still be used, but you should only consider those two modes as techniques for convenience, not a supporting pillar of your personality. To be able to do that, you will have to re-evaluate and fix your comfort pocket and selfish motivation.
Selfish motivation and comfort pocket are not something I came up with. It's something that exists inside everybody who lives in this reality. Selfish motivation is your true desires that exists deep inside you without any garbage ideas harassing it. Comfort pocket is your current personality that you can comfortably define yourself with. Even though it's not really as simple as what I just stated, but for the sake of this piece of writing, that summary should give you a rough idea of the definition of comfort pocket and selfish motivation. When you have a hot temper, it simply means that you have a comfort pocket for controlling situations with an aggressive behavior. It's also possible that you have a selfish motivation for throwing tantrums. I really hope that your selfish motivation is not inclined to do that. If you really are that way, then it means you enjoy throwing a tantrum wherever you go to express yourself. However, if it's only your comfort pocket that is skewered, then there is still better chance of controlling it in your favor.
Comfort pocket oriented temper means that you use your temper in automation to handle stress. In other words, the reason your temper is reflexively let out is because you were actually "forced" to rely on it. Since the first time you used this method to handle your problems, you have genuinely felt that it is an effective solution, so it became your comfort pocket. Comfort pockets can not be controlled by the brain, nor destroyed by any means. Even if you do manage to destroy it, you will become temporarily or permanently insane, because it's a subconscious pillar that secures your sense of being. Being overly reliant on a specific comfort pocket to handle all your life's problems is definitely a mistake, especially if that comfort pocket orients around a negative emotion. For example, whenever you try to convince someone to follow a certain plan, you always dish out your anger when you feel the atmosphere isn't going your way, and you force the target to become a submissive follower of your will. Though I have to say that is a pretty good technique to handle specific situations, especially if the individual you are facing are overly hesitant by nature, however it should not be overly used just to quickly "solve" all your problems. Brilliant and satisfying ways of life requires a constant re-evaluation of who you are, and the goals you aim to achieve. In this sense, since you already have a comfort pocket for your outrageous temper (I'm assuming it has already reached an outrageous level or you won't come and ask for help), you simply have to create new comfort pockets to overlap it's existence.
Comfort pocket overlap is not the same as erasing your old comfort pocket. In other words, even if you begin to use a new comfort pocket to solve your problems, your old comfort pocket oriented around your temper will still exist and be ready to use when you desire to. In this case, you can treat it as a technique for your own convenience instead of a black and white way to define your reputation. To overlap an old comfort pocket, you will have to develop a new comfort pocket oriented around a different emotion. For example, lets say you want to orient a comfort pocket around "relaxation", then the techniques associated with it will have to be very relaxing and comforting. For example, lets say you enjoy beating someone up when the situation doesn't go your way. One day, you suddenly decided that you want to be a more friendly individual (whatever the reason may be), so you start developing techniques that are friendly in nature. You start becoming more relaxed over stressful situations even if you normally think otherwise. As you do this, you will run into many obstacles like the urge to go into an aggressive mode. You have to learn to associate relaxing thought patterns with specific environments and situations. For example, lets say you feel like beating someone up when your expensive shoes gets dirt on it. Instead of thinking that way, start thinking about how you can clean your shoes better, or how to prevent it from being stained in the future. Your focus should be on the situation, not necessarily any specific individual that might've been the "cause" of your problems. Do this a lot and you will find yourself be able to solve more of your life problems more smoothly, because you are learning to think beyond your current limitations. Life is all about a mastery of yourself, so imagine your life starting over as a student. Comfort pocket is all about repetitions and deep thinking about yourself. Making it a complete comfort pocket will require you to overlap every part of your life that can trigger your temper to convert over to your new comfort pocket. If your car triggers your aggressiveness, start thinking deeply about changing that. If your food irritates you, then start thinking about changing your diet or way of cooking. If your friends irritates you, then it's time find new friends or think deeply about their intentions, or are you simply overly expecting things to go a specific way. Once every specific part of your life has been covered, then your comfort pocket is complete and you will rely on it from now on.
Is all of this easy? Probably not. Especially if you have been relying on your temper to solve most of your problems in your whole life. However, believe it or not, every specific environment and situations requires you to have a specific solution for it. It's just that you don't recognize it easily because you are generalizing everything with your temper. So to overlap everything with your new personality will require every specific part of your life to be specifically solved. I wish you good luck, and hope you can enjoy the new relationships you are looking for.
Your temper didn't just appear in a moment's notice. It has actually been growing and developing for quite some time already. Controlling it properly will require a lot of understanding of yourself. To be able to do that, I will have to provide you some basic concepts of the source of your temper.
Your temper was created based on your need to fight. The reason you have that need is because our body has a mechanism described as "fight or flight" that helps us survive. If you have sufficient combat ability, then you fight. If you are afraid of suffering fatal damage, then you run away. In other words, your temper is your fight against your own fears. Fear might sound like a terrible emotion to have, but you have to learn to accept this natural part of yourself. Our fear is something heavens has bestowed upon us to protect us from danger, and to create new possibilities. Our intelligence is created entirely on the foundation of fear. For example, people are afraid of bacterial infection killing everone, so that fear stimulates them to create antibiotics. If there's no fear, then nothing will ever be created, and that includes innovative ideas. Accepting fear to learn and grow is one thing, but fighting it all the time isn't always the correct solution to your dilemma.
By society's standards today, we clearly don't have to fight or flight ALL the time. However, our minds and emotions are still inclined to follow our primordial ancestors' way of life. That's why in general we almost always resort to fight or flight emotional response when we face any kinds of stress. Our temper is specifically the fight response to our stress. Since we have already physically and mentally evolved very far beyond our ancestors, then it's time to catch up with our emotional control also. From the moment you read this, the goal you should have in mind is to make yourself advance beyond fight or flight mode. Fight or flight mode can still be used, but you should only consider those two modes as techniques for convenience, not a supporting pillar of your personality. To be able to do that, you will have to re-evaluate and fix your comfort pocket and selfish motivation.
Selfish motivation and comfort pocket are not something I came up with. It's something that exists inside everybody who lives in this reality. Selfish motivation is your true desires that exists deep inside you without any garbage ideas harassing it. Comfort pocket is your current personality that you can comfortably define yourself with. Even though it's not really as simple as what I just stated, but for the sake of this piece of writing, that summary should give you a rough idea of the definition of comfort pocket and selfish motivation. When you have a hot temper, it simply means that you have a comfort pocket for controlling situations with an aggressive behavior. It's also possible that you have a selfish motivation for throwing tantrums. I really hope that your selfish motivation is not inclined to do that. If you really are that way, then it means you enjoy throwing a tantrum wherever you go to express yourself. However, if it's only your comfort pocket that is skewered, then there is still better chance of controlling it in your favor.
Comfort pocket oriented temper means that you use your temper in automation to handle stress. In other words, the reason your temper is reflexively let out is because you were actually "forced" to rely on it. Since the first time you used this method to handle your problems, you have genuinely felt that it is an effective solution, so it became your comfort pocket. Comfort pockets can not be controlled by the brain, nor destroyed by any means. Even if you do manage to destroy it, you will become temporarily or permanently insane, because it's a subconscious pillar that secures your sense of being. Being overly reliant on a specific comfort pocket to handle all your life's problems is definitely a mistake, especially if that comfort pocket orients around a negative emotion. For example, whenever you try to convince someone to follow a certain plan, you always dish out your anger when you feel the atmosphere isn't going your way, and you force the target to become a submissive follower of your will. Though I have to say that is a pretty good technique to handle specific situations, especially if the individual you are facing are overly hesitant by nature, however it should not be overly used just to quickly "solve" all your problems. Brilliant and satisfying ways of life requires a constant re-evaluation of who you are, and the goals you aim to achieve. In this sense, since you already have a comfort pocket for your outrageous temper (I'm assuming it has already reached an outrageous level or you won't come and ask for help), you simply have to create new comfort pockets to overlap it's existence.
Comfort pocket overlap is not the same as erasing your old comfort pocket. In other words, even if you begin to use a new comfort pocket to solve your problems, your old comfort pocket oriented around your temper will still exist and be ready to use when you desire to. In this case, you can treat it as a technique for your own convenience instead of a black and white way to define your reputation. To overlap an old comfort pocket, you will have to develop a new comfort pocket oriented around a different emotion. For example, lets say you want to orient a comfort pocket around "relaxation", then the techniques associated with it will have to be very relaxing and comforting. For example, lets say you enjoy beating someone up when the situation doesn't go your way. One day, you suddenly decided that you want to be a more friendly individual (whatever the reason may be), so you start developing techniques that are friendly in nature. You start becoming more relaxed over stressful situations even if you normally think otherwise. As you do this, you will run into many obstacles like the urge to go into an aggressive mode. You have to learn to associate relaxing thought patterns with specific environments and situations. For example, lets say you feel like beating someone up when your expensive shoes gets dirt on it. Instead of thinking that way, start thinking about how you can clean your shoes better, or how to prevent it from being stained in the future. Your focus should be on the situation, not necessarily any specific individual that might've been the "cause" of your problems. Do this a lot and you will find yourself be able to solve more of your life problems more smoothly, because you are learning to think beyond your current limitations. Life is all about a mastery of yourself, so imagine your life starting over as a student. Comfort pocket is all about repetitions and deep thinking about yourself. Making it a complete comfort pocket will require you to overlap every part of your life that can trigger your temper to convert over to your new comfort pocket. If your car triggers your aggressiveness, start thinking deeply about changing that. If your food irritates you, then start thinking about changing your diet or way of cooking. If your friends irritates you, then it's time find new friends or think deeply about their intentions, or are you simply overly expecting things to go a specific way. Once every specific part of your life has been covered, then your comfort pocket is complete and you will rely on it from now on.
Is all of this easy? Probably not. Especially if you have been relying on your temper to solve most of your problems in your whole life. However, believe it or not, every specific environment and situations requires you to have a specific solution for it. It's just that you don't recognize it easily because you are generalizing everything with your temper. So to overlap everything with your new personality will require every specific part of your life to be specifically solved. I wish you good luck, and hope you can enjoy the new relationships you are looking for.
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Thursday, January 5, 2012
Do People Close to You Repeat a Pattern of Negative Feedback? - Selfish Motivation Variation
Nonsense are not meant to be negative and I'll do my best to maintain neutrality in this topic. Don't worry, this is all nonsense so nobody was really hurt =P. If you have anything to say, please don't hesitate to leave a comment below.
"It's been a long time". Recently, I hear myself saying that a lot. It's a way I try to feel nostalgic about my historical time line by letting old memories flash through my head multiple times. That's cool, because I think that cherishing our timeline, no matter what happened is important since it made us who we are, in other words- our comfort pockets. However, no matter where I go, who I meet, same patterns repeat themselves over and over again. Now, why is that?
In case my audience forgot let me remind you that I'm a guy, and I am straight. What does that mean? It means I like women. I happen to have dated many women in the past, and no it doesn't mean that I have resourceful dating wisdom, because it simply doesn't reach that conclusion. The reason is because all of those experiences were painful to recall. After so many years of these experiences, I have finally concluded that I have issues, or maybe I just happen to run into plenty of incompatible women through some weird twist of fate. I can even show you a formula of what always happens whenever I date. It goes something like this:
1. I meet a woman I like and we talk
2. She thinks I am funny (I'm guessing. Let's just assume I can read her mind for this piece of writing's sake)
3. We date a few times
4. She was happy, cool, and funny at first
5. Then she talks less, acts cold, sneezes more (okay maybe they don't all sneeze more)
6. I feel disappointed and I ignore them as a reaction to their behaviors
7. We never talk again and I search for someone else that might be more compatible
Clearly, it's not any of the women's fault because this pattern repeats ALL the time. Well, sometimes I will ask them why they suddenly become cold. They give me some reasons like I don't pursue them enough, buy gifts, prove myself through their test. Those answers are obviously a part of their comfort pockets created by their experiences, and beliefs so I don't even bother asking them anymore for answers. Most often I don't understand myself very well, so I don't expect anybody else to be able to. If I continue to pursue them for an answer, then it's analogical to asking an uneducated janitor about the history of mops and brooms. Both of us won't reach a satisfying conclusion.
This doesn't only happen in my daily life. It happens in my social circles, family, and even my closest friends. For the sake of this piece of writing, I'll call myself the "victim" in all those situations. Yes, you can conclude that people who behaves that way towards me probably had a reason, or they are uncomfortable with me. Yes, I completely agree with you, but that's outside the scope of this piece of writing. We are only going to focus on the reasons I keep stimulating this pattern from the environment around me. Without other components, there's only one conclusion we can make here, and that would be selfish motivation.
As I mentioned in my previous articles, selfish motivation is the only form of motivation we all have that allows us to do great things. When you reach the ultimate form of your selfish motivation, you will also reach true altruism. The reason is because you are so satisfied with the way you live that you will find it too difficult not to share with others since everything is an excess to you. If you want to read about it then go ahead here to get a feel of what it is. So how does selfish motivation relate with my problem? Is it a problem with my selfish motivation or the women I chased after?
The problem is from both of us. The women that I met had their selfish motivation triggered by the selfish motivation of my own. It's undeniable that everybody wants recognition and appreciation for their own existence. Nobody is an exception. People I meet see the potential in the new connection that I can form with them (potential can go in all directions, including doing harm). Meeting somebody for the first time always creates, for both of us a subconscious expectation that there's some "potential" for further development due to this meeting/ relationship (does not have to be sexual). This is enough to trigger a selfish motivation in someone. For example, my selfish motivation for meeting a girl can be for her to be my girlfriend. She would agree to this development if she agrees to my intentions. If she has no selfish motivation for that to happen, then she'll simply disagree, and the relationship is ruined. That's the reason why girls turn cold after they've been nice to you for a while. They enjoy your company in the beginning but realized that they wanted to stay in the "friend zone". Since your selfish motivation conflicts with her's, the relationship becomes detached. This is the ultimate reason why the problem is from both of us, yet it's not at the same time. Neither one of us is at fault. If things turns out this way, it simply wasn't meant to be. Her selfish motivation simply didn't find the possibility of developing a deeper relationship between us, and that's fine.
This is the key reason why people blood-related to you or those in "close" relationship with you might repeat a pattern of negative feedback. You both don't have a mutual motivation for keeping up a good relationship. For example, some parents (not all) will find their children useless and unimportant to their existence.They have clearly little to no motivation to raising their children. They could feel that having children is many more times an expense than a profit. Some parents I know look at their child like a stack of bills or wrinkle cream (that causes wrinkle). In these scenarios, parents will look at their child as a mistake or "the condom broken at the wrong moment" or some other negative analogy. These children are often abandoned or heavily neglected in different ways. However, there are parents that appreciate their own children and treasure their existence more than their own lives. In their case, motivation for raising their children is their love for them. For there to be no patterns of negative feed backs in relationship, people have to find reasons and motivations for being together positively.
If society's standard of selfish motivation have reached its ultimate state, then we will all live in true state of peace and harmony, because we will all not hesitate to help each other out. Why? It's because people are so satisfied emotionally, mentally, and passionately that everything becomes an excess to them. They are so content that these things don't matter to them anymore. It is the most fair, advanced, and powerful form of trade between everybody.
Meeting someone is only a shallow form of connection that anybody can form. Just saying "hi" to someone can already trigger this. Your selfish motivation for forming such a temporary connection might be for the sake of asking for time, to feel good afterwards, or to make a friend. If you say "I said hi cause I felt like it", then that's still a selfish motivation because you're doing something for a return of a satisfying feeling. Connections are necessary with people you meet or else the relationship will not work, because there's no comfort pocket formed. In that case there will be no reason for the two different individuals to stay together beyond some form of formality like "boyfriend" or " father". In this case, the relationship is more of an obligation instead of a selfish motivation. If this happens to you then you will always feel a certain distance with people "close" to you.
To conclude this piece of writing. We all have selfish motivations to pursue a more powerful form of connection that helps us appreciate our very form of existence in this world. This also applies to people we try to connect with. If your comfort pocket don't include any form of technique that can be used to comprehend other people's selfish motivation, then your existence will always be outside other people's needs. People who don't have the reason to stay with you will not be with you. It's always important to polish your feelings, personality, and emotions, be the best of who you are with the potential given to you by the heavens. Use this to form the best selfish motivation inside your comfort pocket.
"It's been a long time". Recently, I hear myself saying that a lot. It's a way I try to feel nostalgic about my historical time line by letting old memories flash through my head multiple times. That's cool, because I think that cherishing our timeline, no matter what happened is important since it made us who we are, in other words- our comfort pockets. However, no matter where I go, who I meet, same patterns repeat themselves over and over again. Now, why is that?
In case my audience forgot let me remind you that I'm a guy, and I am straight. What does that mean? It means I like women. I happen to have dated many women in the past, and no it doesn't mean that I have resourceful dating wisdom, because it simply doesn't reach that conclusion. The reason is because all of those experiences were painful to recall. After so many years of these experiences, I have finally concluded that I have issues, or maybe I just happen to run into plenty of incompatible women through some weird twist of fate. I can even show you a formula of what always happens whenever I date. It goes something like this:
1. I meet a woman I like and we talk
2. She thinks I am funny (I'm guessing. Let's just assume I can read her mind for this piece of writing's sake)
3. We date a few times
4. She was happy, cool, and funny at first
5. Then she talks less, acts cold, sneezes more (okay maybe they don't all sneeze more)
6. I feel disappointed and I ignore them as a reaction to their behaviors
7. We never talk again and I search for someone else that might be more compatible
Clearly, it's not any of the women's fault because this pattern repeats ALL the time. Well, sometimes I will ask them why they suddenly become cold. They give me some reasons like I don't pursue them enough, buy gifts, prove myself through their test. Those answers are obviously a part of their comfort pockets created by their experiences, and beliefs so I don't even bother asking them anymore for answers. Most often I don't understand myself very well, so I don't expect anybody else to be able to. If I continue to pursue them for an answer, then it's analogical to asking an uneducated janitor about the history of mops and brooms. Both of us won't reach a satisfying conclusion.
This doesn't only happen in my daily life. It happens in my social circles, family, and even my closest friends. For the sake of this piece of writing, I'll call myself the "victim" in all those situations. Yes, you can conclude that people who behaves that way towards me probably had a reason, or they are uncomfortable with me. Yes, I completely agree with you, but that's outside the scope of this piece of writing. We are only going to focus on the reasons I keep stimulating this pattern from the environment around me. Without other components, there's only one conclusion we can make here, and that would be selfish motivation.
As I mentioned in my previous articles, selfish motivation is the only form of motivation we all have that allows us to do great things. When you reach the ultimate form of your selfish motivation, you will also reach true altruism. The reason is because you are so satisfied with the way you live that you will find it too difficult not to share with others since everything is an excess to you. If you want to read about it then go ahead here to get a feel of what it is. So how does selfish motivation relate with my problem? Is it a problem with my selfish motivation or the women I chased after?
The problem is from both of us. The women that I met had their selfish motivation triggered by the selfish motivation of my own. It's undeniable that everybody wants recognition and appreciation for their own existence. Nobody is an exception. People I meet see the potential in the new connection that I can form with them (potential can go in all directions, including doing harm). Meeting somebody for the first time always creates, for both of us a subconscious expectation that there's some "potential" for further development due to this meeting/ relationship (does not have to be sexual). This is enough to trigger a selfish motivation in someone. For example, my selfish motivation for meeting a girl can be for her to be my girlfriend. She would agree to this development if she agrees to my intentions. If she has no selfish motivation for that to happen, then she'll simply disagree, and the relationship is ruined. That's the reason why girls turn cold after they've been nice to you for a while. They enjoy your company in the beginning but realized that they wanted to stay in the "friend zone". Since your selfish motivation conflicts with her's, the relationship becomes detached. This is the ultimate reason why the problem is from both of us, yet it's not at the same time. Neither one of us is at fault. If things turns out this way, it simply wasn't meant to be. Her selfish motivation simply didn't find the possibility of developing a deeper relationship between us, and that's fine.
This is the key reason why people blood-related to you or those in "close" relationship with you might repeat a pattern of negative feedback. You both don't have a mutual motivation for keeping up a good relationship. For example, some parents (not all) will find their children useless and unimportant to their existence.They have clearly little to no motivation to raising their children. They could feel that having children is many more times an expense than a profit. Some parents I know look at their child like a stack of bills or wrinkle cream (that causes wrinkle). In these scenarios, parents will look at their child as a mistake or "the condom broken at the wrong moment" or some other negative analogy. These children are often abandoned or heavily neglected in different ways. However, there are parents that appreciate their own children and treasure their existence more than their own lives. In their case, motivation for raising their children is their love for them. For there to be no patterns of negative feed backs in relationship, people have to find reasons and motivations for being together positively.
If society's standard of selfish motivation have reached its ultimate state, then we will all live in true state of peace and harmony, because we will all not hesitate to help each other out. Why? It's because people are so satisfied emotionally, mentally, and passionately that everything becomes an excess to them. They are so content that these things don't matter to them anymore. It is the most fair, advanced, and powerful form of trade between everybody.
Meeting someone is only a shallow form of connection that anybody can form. Just saying "hi" to someone can already trigger this. Your selfish motivation for forming such a temporary connection might be for the sake of asking for time, to feel good afterwards, or to make a friend. If you say "I said hi cause I felt like it", then that's still a selfish motivation because you're doing something for a return of a satisfying feeling. Connections are necessary with people you meet or else the relationship will not work, because there's no comfort pocket formed. In that case there will be no reason for the two different individuals to stay together beyond some form of formality like "boyfriend" or " father". In this case, the relationship is more of an obligation instead of a selfish motivation. If this happens to you then you will always feel a certain distance with people "close" to you.
To conclude this piece of writing. We all have selfish motivations to pursue a more powerful form of connection that helps us appreciate our very form of existence in this world. This also applies to people we try to connect with. If your comfort pocket don't include any form of technique that can be used to comprehend other people's selfish motivation, then your existence will always be outside other people's needs. People who don't have the reason to stay with you will not be with you. It's always important to polish your feelings, personality, and emotions, be the best of who you are with the potential given to you by the heavens. Use this to form the best selfish motivation inside your comfort pocket.
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stress,
successful life,
will power,
women
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
Comfort Pocket Abridged - Digging out Your Current True Self
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Time won't make you improve if you freeze yourself in time. - W.B.H
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