I write nonsense. None of this is real. Believe at your own expense.
This world can be generalized by two relationships. This can be parent and child. This can be good and evil. This can be fat and skinny. This can also be smart and dumb. Nevertheless, even though, there are many categories our general population can be put in, but in general, we can always categorize everything into one or the other for simplicity purposes. Today, we are going to talk about parent and child.
In the current society we live in, parent and child can almost always be considered as teacher and student. However, the roles of teacher and student can be swapped randomly between the two endlessly as long the two consistently interact with each other. The parent is usually the one teaching, because even if the the child didn't intend to learn (though intentions don't really exist for a child yet, because of lack of CP formation), the child role models after environmental influences. In a child's world, the categories are much simpler. It's either fun, or not fun. Fun is good. Not fun is not good. So after a child reaches a certain age, the word fun would have more meaning, and the words not fun also holds more weight. At this point, we all think of teenagers who are "rebellious" by nature. The truth is, conflict began to exist due to the child having trouble distinguishing fun and not fun merely based on environmental influences and growing intelligence. At this point, that child will wonder really hard, "what should I believe in?". The child can choose to listen to their parents. The child can also choose listen to their friends (friends being a relative word here). When the word "choose" is used here, "whole-heartedly-choose" is the implication here. In other words, the decision is not easy to revoke, because it will become a CP. The end result in any situation is that the child will have lots of emotions. If the emotions are uplifting and motivating, then no problem will be caused, but if it's not, then we have a problem.
When anybody grows up, we like to believe that we chose to develop life "our" own way. Unfortunately, that is simply not true. True, we are all individuals that made our own decisions, but what made the conclusions that you should make those choices. Obviously those are choices handed to you before, and you chose among them that you feel is the best, and hide the rest. The hidden ones are still chosen, yet they are hidden, because we all have a "just in case" mindset. Lets have an example, if that was too abstract. When you were teenager, you were warned to not smoke. Since you have friends that smoke, and you know these are friends for keeps. You will smoke with them forever. That's your conclusion. Your decision. Your choice. However, the choice of "not smoking for health hazards" are still a "choice" in your subconscious mind hidden somewhere. One day, lets say you heard of your friend who died of lung cancer and he is a smoker. You might suddenly feel fear and decide to stop smoking. If smoking hazards has never been taught to you as a "choice" then this decision will never occur to you at all. If this example sounds too cliche, then lets have a different one. Lets say you have devoted your life to painting art, but your family wants you to be a chef. Everyone you know has always recommended you to be a chef, because they think you look like a famous chef. After 30 years of studying and painting art, you finally give up and believe you have no talent. You will start to believe that your life is meant for you to cook.
Due to fighting against the choices you have your whole life, you will only have your sight on two choices. Going towards your original goal, and fighting against goals recommended to you. In the end, if the original goal "fails" then you will have only one goal. That goal is the goal recommended to you. In this world, we can have a lot of goals, but you it will never occur to you to choose them because you only had your sights on two goals. The goal you want and the goal you don't want.
We will continue to live and age and have regretful frustrating feelings from time to time, but since we are still alive, it barely poses as a problem. Some day you might even become a parent or a teacher of someone, though you can be unofficial or not blood related. Due to care, due to love, due to hate, due to frustrations, you will choose to recommend the same goals recommended to you. Taking the artist example above, you will most likely teach the next generations why being an artist is unrealistic and being a chef is the way to go.
To avoid falling into this kind of no-return irreversible situation it's very important to have comfort pocket arms (CPA) available at all times. These are connections to your core personality that allows you latch onto useful practical motivations in life. We all tend to fight in two directions, against ourselves and against our mentors. The moment you decided to fight, you have cut out all your cpa and limit yourself to minimum amounts of choices in your potential. Stop fighting. Clear your mind and figure things out without prejudice. Recommendations can be both right and wrong. Your decisions can also be both right and wrong. There's no guarantee that what you go against is wrong, and what you chose is right. However, motivations are always right. What you are not motivated in doing will never have a good result. Things you are motivated in doing are always going to have a good result, as long you don't let anything burn it away. Don't give up and keep going.
If you can't do something so simple, then you are simply a child in adult form.
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