I was cooking some food that I had never made before. I tried thoroughly to watch how my mother did it, and tried to repeat the process. However, it still came out wrong and disgusting. I tried to forget it, but my mother went through a lengthy process of explaining how I don't pay enough attention to her when she did it, and complained about how anyone can make a mistake on such an "easy" dish. For my readers, let me tell you a few things about me. I am Chinese, and Chinese don't make "easy" dishes. There's also no such thing as "salads" in our menu unless there's proactive learning from other cultures. Making dishes and getting yelled at is no big deal, but what if this kind of problem repeats and amplifies in other areas of your life?
Everybody has some easy things to do. It can be anything right? If you randomly selected 10 people off the streets and questioned them about the "easiest" thing they have to do during the day, then you'll most likely get many different answers. If you thought "breathing" is the easiest thing to do in this world, then you really have no empathy towards asthma and COPD patients. I'm afraid breathing is only meant for lucky people who take for granted. For the unfortunate ones, lets just say their difficulties are far beyond a normal person's comprehension. Just because something is awfully easy for you doesn't mean it holds true for everybody else.
Most people's comfort pocket don't have strong beliefs that takes this fact seriously enough. There are actually people out there who probably builds a rocket ship with their bare hands, and they will tell you it was "easy". Was it really that easy? I'm afraid the only reason why that person felt it was easy is due to his powerful, and overwhelming selfish motivation combined with insane amounts of experience and beliefs stored inside his comfort pocket. You can most likely relate to this because most of us has mastered some kind of skill, even if it is something like picking your nose.
So what are the intentions of the person declaring something as "easy"? There are only two possibilities. Positive and negative. Positive would mean that person will declare something is easy so they can motivate you to do the same. Negative would mean that person can be:
- belittling you
- showing off to prove themselves
- being a jerk
- stopping you from improving
- giving you a hard time
- tricking you
In general most people will prefer to go for the negative version, because its a nature designed comfort pocket. Like I mentioned before in previous articles, developing experience in struggling against nature, and beliefs of scarcity has forces us to develop a negative comfort pocket backbone. With a negative comfort pocket backbone, we have a tendency to develop a very skewered and discriminated perception of our world believing that specific patterns can only be solved in a specific way, usually negative. For example, lets say there's this guy who goes out to meet women, and he doesn't double check his comfort pocket to master his personality, so he gets blown off all the time. On the other hand, when he sees other men who "looks" rich approach women and get all the success, then he will conclude that "women are only attracted to rich men". Even though in reality, men who are funny, open minded, easy going, passionate tend to have even more success, that guy with the skewered comfort pocket will never understand. Even though it's not part of his true selfish motivation to do harm to others, his new comfort pocket will find other victims. One way for that comfort pocket to harm others is through "education". People with lack of experience (unsaturated comfort pocket) will tend to look towards people with more experience (can be a person with true or false perception) for advice. Lets use that rejected guy for another example. Lets say one day, he meets a friend who is just as inexperienced with women as the rejected guy once was in the the past, and his inexperienced friend asked him for advice, then they will have tendency to have one of the two of the following dialogue:
Dialogue 1
Friend: Hey, I heard you approached a lot of women in the past, so can you share some of your experience?
Rejected Guy: Women are all about money. Look pal, you are too young to find a woman. What you need are lots of money, then women will flock to you like birds.
Friend: Oh, cool, I learned something new.
Dialogue 2
Friend: Hey, I heard you approached a lot of women in the past, so can you share some of your experience?
Rejected Guy: Oh getting women are easy. There's a simple formula to it. Money = women. Women love buying stuff, so if you have a lot of money, you will get them, I promise *wink*
Friend: Cool, thanks, that's so interesting!
As you can see from the above dialogues, the first dialogue is a much more negative view of women. Rejected guy in the second dialogue has a more positive attitude but his perception is still very negative and discriminated. Personally, I don't believe what rejected guy believes and his beliefs are only one type of manifestations of the type of negative comfort pockets people hold in society. Due to negative comfort pockets like these,y ou will find it more common for people to give you a hard time on developing your own creative ideas by telling you it's "easy" to follow their way of doing things without helping your develop your own productive methods, or styles of accomplishing something.
The victim might or might not know they were tricked and swallow up a newly born comfort pocket. That victim will become a new predator that goes around and continue telling others how about their "fool-proof" method of handling a specific dilemma is "easy" with their false perception. Negativity is limiting by nature so eventually everybody who was influenced this way will not try to go beyond their limited amounts of comfort pockets, and permanently lower their standard of "easy-ness"(even though it's not a word). Our body, mind, and soul given to us by heavens have a tendency to make anything we master feel very easy to accomplish. This is simply a way of developing a mastering a high quality comfort pocket. This can also happen when a we have enough selfish motivation to blast our way through obstacles making everything seem very "easy" to us. If we don't do that, then everything we do will just seem more and more difficult. When we hold those beliefs in our comfort pockets dearly, then we can also make things much more difficult for other potentially capable people who could've made everything much easier to handle, elevating everybody's standard of living.
When we approach a new task or a difficult task we should have only two type of feelings; one or the other. The first type is absolute excitement. The second type is a neutral feeling. The people you will meet or have met so far have spent a lot of time trying to make their lives "comfortable" and "easy" so you never know how low their life standards are. Their standards of "easy" might be so low that you will be dragged lower by their low amounts of selfish motivation. On the other hands their standards of "easy" might be so high that you will feel overwhelmed (if they handle it negatively). Nevertheless, their perception of "no stress" will tend to be very different from what you perceive as no stress. One reason could be that things that you can accomplish easily can be "far beyond their imagination". To accomplish anything you want, you will need a full power selfish motivation with comfort pockets containing lots of fired up emotions to help you. If your perceptions of life has been skewered, then creating those exciting emotions will be less possible, or even tolerant.
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