Hey today we'll talk a little about emotional handling. It's nonsense right? Who doesn't let their angers out of control? Today, we'll forget how we should let our emotions ramble and just figure out how to feel peace of mind again. Then again, all I write is nonsense, so you can choose not to believe me. If you have anything to say then please don't hesitate to leave a comment below.
Anger is one thing, but what is depressed anger? When a person is angry, they're usually not depressed anymore because they are flaring out their emotions. When a person is depressed, they are usually very quiet because they feel no hope, so they won't have enough energy to be angry. Today we'll talk about a special case of depressed anger, in which your depression evolves into anger, then evolves back into depression creating a non-ending cycle. This is a very common scenario so it's probably not too difficult to relate to.
Depressed anger literally goes out of control. It's unforgiving, because the victim can't self forgive. The reason it's so common is because this comfort pocket is very self sufficient. When a person acts too angry, their guilt and fear kicks in and that person will fall back into a state of depression. They will probably feel guilty for a long time and stay depressed. That's one example. Another example would be a person who is too depressed, and eventually gets angry at whoever, or whatever that is causing them to feel that strong depressed feeling, and stays aggressive for a long time. That's another example. After a certain period of time, the person will rotate their feelings to the other one from depressed to anger and back. Some people will ask me why this is so, when there are so many other emotions to fee. My answer is because this comfort pocket is easy to use and very efficient. It sort of stem out of our primary instincts of "fight or flight". Fight is to beat away the opposition, and flight is to run away from the fight. If you fight the opposition you get angry. If you run away then you stay depressed and not express yourself.
There isn't anything wrong with this comfort pocket but it tends to get in the way of getting yourself out of the problem because it drives you deeper into a complicated scenario. Since our nature is to solve everything as simply as possible then any new complication will overwhelm you due to insufficient comfort pocket to handle random events. A way to get out of this cyclical dilemma is to remember the times when you feel you were best and happiest person you have ever been. This will often disperse the forces that bothers you. If you feel that you have never been happy in your life, then more work will have to be done.
The goal to handling depressed anger is to bring positive light into your life so you don't stagnate in a vicious cycle. The easiest understood emotion that brings positiveness would be "happiness". Everybody has been happy at one point or another, unless they have no emotions. The only reason you can't remember is simply because those moments probably didn't last long enough, or high quality enough to balance out the negative parts of your life. Normally I would recommend more for those who are stuck in a negative state, but depressed anger is a special scenario. So there's only one method to bypass this obstacle in your life, which is to find something important to do. We are all very powerful by nature. If you have meditated deeply before, then you'll understand even beyond that profound truth. Once we focus ourselves to do ONE thing, then we will literally be able to do it no matter what despite class, talent, environment, or anything you can think of. The reason everybody can NOT do that nowadays is because we lost the idea of focus. When you are stuck in any cycle, the key to getting out of it is to focus strongly at one point outside of the cycle, and force your way out. It's equivalent to being stuck in a maze. Instead of trying so hard to find your way out, break holes in every wall and go out directly. Imagine that you are a tip of a pencil, and your aim is to write clear legible writing, so strip away all the useless excess to focus on your goal. In other words, keep telling yourself that your anger and sadness can wait for later, because at this point you have to accomplish this very important goal you have in mind. This goal can help yourself, and it can help others. It doesn't matter. Use it to get out your locked up state NOW.
Once you have seen the light a little then you will have to use different methods to re-energize your life. Simply doing something important is not enough, because you are delaying your problem in the long term, so at this point find out what to do here.
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