Many people are constantly bothered by the same question, "have I strayed too far from my goal?". That's nonsense man. I'm going to talk today about what it takes to stay focused on your goal. =p If you have anything to say then please don't hesitate to leave a comment below.
A few years ago, I was pondering about the reason why education is deliberately given to young children to prepare for their 'future'. In america, education is shunned by young ones practically everywhere. Though there are plenty that has their curious sides on what they're learning, but it's not consistent everywhere. In fact, most people I know consider education for weak, ignorant brats who will never be able to do anything the 'practical' way in life. I don't know. No comments there. Whether proper education helps a person or not is not the focus of the current writing, but rather environmental influences that screws around with a person's motivation in success in life.
Success is a subjective thing. It depends on who you are talking about, their background, their natural strength, and their comfort pocket. Some people want to become a world champion, and others wouldn't give a damn about fame, but rather be satisfied with a life of no sickness. Since success can run in such a variety, it can get confusing sometimes. That's why we tend to neutralize ourselves sometimes. For example, lets say you finally succeed at the goal you had in mind, and you have a family to return to. You arrived home, telling everybody about your success, and everybody replies with a monotonous response of "oh I see, very good". It's not like they are insulting you deliberately, but they just don't feel motivation to deliver more appreciation for your success. Eventually your happiness dies down, but a feeling of loneliness rises up. What's your next move? Yea, you got it. Find something to do and succeed on, that everybody will appreciate you for. Let's say you do don't that, but stay on your original path, your idealism will definitely change. As I mentioned in my previous writings, without selfish motivation, you'll eventually fail at what you are doing. Having skills and a goal is simply not enough. Crimes exist because people can never appreciate their own success. It's also because society is given the illusion that any goal is a straight line path. It's a lot more tricky than that. Even if you do see and lived through a 'straight path', I bet that if you ever kept a journal on everything you did, your path is far from a straight forward one.
Let's assume you don't have a comfort pocket that relies on others for appreciation of what you like to do the most, but you'll still feel confused if not discouraged on what you are doing. We live in a society of trade. Working alone is practically impossible. Even the so called rich giants rely on some form of subordinate to do their work for them. For example, I don't make my own pizza, and computer, but rather I purchase them from someone that does make them. When you are discouraged, you'll feel very far away from your goal. It'll even feel impossible to complete it now. But remember one thing, our sense of goal accomplishment is based on emotions, not actual materials. When we die, we'll just be nothing left except being fertilizer for other living organisms. In other words, the goal is never something in front of you, but in fact, the end point is the starting point. In the end, the only thing accomplishing a goal does is to satisfy oneself of whatever reason. Before our lives end, we want to make the most of it possible. In other words we are technically constructing, following, and planning out a circle of events that leads us to our goal, which is also the beginning at the same time.
If you ever get impatient about 'completing' your goal, try to remember that your goal is a circle back to the starting point. What part of the circle are you on right now? The bigger you made your circle, or should I say, the more fascinating you made your goal, the more events you will experience and the more challenges you'll have to face. It's also impossible to backtrack to the beginning of emotional satisfaction, unless you meditate and practice zen like me. For the time being, you'll rely on that goal you created for yourself and continue on your journey. I heard others say that 'life is not easy'. The reason is because you made your goal more fascinating, and your circle of fate bigger than average. Simple as that. Impatience is also part of the circle. It's an expression that gives a reference point of where you are on your circle right now.
Every circle turns, so every point is a turning point. Remember that. I once watched a japanese cartoon about mahjong and learned one of my favorite quotes; "when a person becomes to proud of his skills, then he'll meet his downfall". In other words, even if you do succeed, it'll just be the beginning of newer challenges. Appreciate your place on the circle and keep going.
To sum it up, nobody is too far away from their goal in life. Others influences cause you to think that way. Most often, appreciation doesn't come from approval Visualize your circle and think about where you are, and how far you want to go. I wish you good luck.
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