How to Truly Not Feel Alone

     This piece of writing will probably relate to a lot of people's feelings even though it's nonsense. Time to begin, enough introductions. If you have anything to say then please don't hesitate to leave a comment below.




     There's many ways to not feel alone. I can even list some of the common techniques the general public add to their comfort pocket to make this happen. For example do you:

1. Compare with someone worst than you are
2. Make fun of those worst than you are
3. Deliberately repetitively remind yourself of the personality flaws in other people
4. Hurt other people to get attention
5. Hurt yourself to get attention
6. Try to counsel someone with the same problems that you have
7. Give more attention to people in despair than people in bliss
8. Make everybody else happy to prove that you are their savior
9. Find people who lack the same type of attention you lack and cry deeply about it
10. Join social groups that has similar problems to you

    The list above obviously doesn't cover all the techniques people have invented. Don't mistaken all of the above to be positive or negative traits behaviors. I will give you one technique today to replace all of the above. First of all, you have to have an open mind (your comfort pocket will need work) if you want to take this seriously. This will be short so be prepared. I will summarize this in a sentence. You will have to:

"Imagine that there's nobody else in this world except for you."

    In other words you are pretty much thinking of a world where apocalypse has happened. There is plenty of delicious food to last until you are 200 years old, all pathogens have miraculously disappeared so you won't get sick, there are no wild beasts to attack you, and there are plenty of intact housing left for you to live in. Imagine a world that allows you to live such a long time all alone. Think deeply about it. Ask yourself this question:

"Would you wish somebody is still alive even if it's someone that doesn't understand your feelings?"

     In contrast to such an extreme world, we do literally live in our societies alone. You might live or interact with a lot of people, but the feelings of loneliness are still legitimate. There are lots of comfort pockets built into us in addition to what nature has provided us from birth, so even though we are not perfect, our detection ability for "problems" is accurate. Even though the solutions to the problems doesn't necessarily exist in the physical world, but often exist in our very own internal worlds, it would be beyond the focus of our current discussion here, so I'll make it simple and conclude that problems you feel are not fake.

     The reality is that we live with a lot of people who doesn't recognize our existence as an individual. Usually the feeling comes often from the inside, because we might feel abused or used without being repaid with the satisfaction we need (comfort pocket). Even though repayment for our good deeds with a feeling of satisfaction is great to consistently receive, most often than not, it's important to be more "self" reliant on creating that feeling. The reason is because even if the person you helped repays you to the best of his or her ability, your sensitivity to their gratification might get more dull and unsatisfying every time you receive it, because we can't acknowledge the feeling as legitimate from inside of us due to desensitivity. The reason is because if the event happen too often or you used too little efforts (based on your standards stored in your comfort pocket) to accomplish the feat, then you will feel less of a challenge and more of a "I did nothing" feeling. It's similar to eating your favorite dish one hundred times a month. You will get tired of the sensation and lose the enjoyment you have for it.

    Learning to appreciate life is a much more difficult task than you can ever imagine. The reason is not because we are easily bored by nature. The most important reason is due to fear. There are many things in this world that we disqualify as something we can accomplish. If I told you to list 10 things that you will feel it's impossible for you to do,  yet historically other people have done it, can you make that list? If the answer is yes, then there are plenty of things you haven't done yet to completely satisfy yourself. The self contradiction we hold in ourselves is the fear of challenging difficult tasks for true satisfaction, and the boredom we feel in dealing with easy comfortable tasks. Sometimes it's simply worth the challenge even if you will feel like the most embarrassed person alive. It's either that or the most bored person alive, who is heading towards the road of suicide.

  Hard and easy, bored and fun. You decide.